Reviewing the Past.
Accept the past as past, without denying it or discarding it. Reminisce about it, but don’t live in it. Learn from it, but don’t punish yourself about it or continually regret it. Don’t get stuck in it.
What can I learn from it?What did I learn?
How does it help me right now?
Learn to forgive yourself and to forgive others.
Ask for forgiveness from others. Forgiveness can soften the heart, drain the bitterness, ad dissolve your guilt.
1. Forgive yourself for all the things you didn’t do that you should have and all the things that you did that you shouldn’t have.
2. Get rid of the guilt.
All the work you have actively done on yourself – all the experiences you have had in your life – can be used to maintain your composure. You have the resources. Draw on them.
Benefit from your success.
Learn from your mistake without judging yourself.
Thursday, May 15, 2008
Forgiveness
Path
1. Find what is divine, holy or sacred for you. Attend to it, worship it in you r own way.
2. If possible, find and develop a spiritual connection and practice that comforts you.
3. Be a witness to yourself. Act as an observer to your own physical, emotional, social, and spiritual states.
4. Find ways to maintain your inner privacy even when your privacy is being invaded by external necessities.
5. Be loving, compassionate, and gentle toward yourself. Befriend yourself. Do not put yourself down or criticize yourself continuously.
6. Let others’ affection, love, concern, interest, admiration, and respect be enough to keep you composed.
7. When you are utterly frustrated or angry, express these feelings. You don’t have to be nice all the time.
8. Get as much help as you can when you need it.
9. Don’t stay preoccupied with your body or your illness. Recognize that your body is not your total self, only part of it.
10. Accept yourself, your physical condition, and your fate as they are at the present moment.
11. Expect that it’s going to be harder and take longer to do things. Be prepared to do things in ways that are very difficult from the ways you did them before.
2. If possible, find and develop a spiritual connection and practice that comforts you.
3. Be a witness to yourself. Act as an observer to your own physical, emotional, social, and spiritual states.
4. Find ways to maintain your inner privacy even when your privacy is being invaded by external necessities.
5. Be loving, compassionate, and gentle toward yourself. Befriend yourself. Do not put yourself down or criticize yourself continuously.
6. Let others’ affection, love, concern, interest, admiration, and respect be enough to keep you composed.
7. When you are utterly frustrated or angry, express these feelings. You don’t have to be nice all the time.
8. Get as much help as you can when you need it.
9. Don’t stay preoccupied with your body or your illness. Recognize that your body is not your total self, only part of it.
10. Accept yourself, your physical condition, and your fate as they are at the present moment.
11. Expect that it’s going to be harder and take longer to do things. Be prepared to do things in ways that are very difficult from the ways you did them before.
Monogamy
We want a pact of monogamy to protect us, yet physically, we are programmed to break such a pact.
“All men need just four things: food, shelter, pussy and …strange pussy”
– Jay McInerney the Good Life
Some couples agree to play but stick together. They have this shared fantasy of playing together as long as they can disconnect after the play and be emotionally bound to each other. They have their own rules and they abide by them. What counts is a couple’s willingness to rethink what fidelity means and to be prepared to bend rather than break the rules.
Love through liberation = modern monogamy
Waistline monogamy: touching and kissing, all activities above the waist.
The Clinton monogamy: oral sex does not count
Body fluid monogamy: separated by a layer of latex
The 50-mile rule: don’t sleep with somebody in your own city
Human sex toy: someone a couple brings home to spice up their love-life
Poly-amorous: having multiple partners openly and consensually
Voyeurogamy: you can look but you can’t touch
Trinogamous: being in a committed three-person relationship.
Show me through your actions for words are cheap?
>I can't seem to remember why I have posted this. Hahaha!!! I should have added:
MONOGAMY goes against our basic biology
(of course, this isn't mine. got this from No Strings Attached.)
“All men need just four things: food, shelter, pussy and …strange pussy”
– Jay McInerney the Good Life
Some couples agree to play but stick together. They have this shared fantasy of playing together as long as they can disconnect after the play and be emotionally bound to each other. They have their own rules and they abide by them. What counts is a couple’s willingness to rethink what fidelity means and to be prepared to bend rather than break the rules.
Love through liberation = modern monogamy
Waistline monogamy: touching and kissing, all activities above the waist.
The Clinton monogamy: oral sex does not count
Body fluid monogamy: separated by a layer of latex
The 50-mile rule: don’t sleep with somebody in your own city
Human sex toy: someone a couple brings home to spice up their love-life
Poly-amorous: having multiple partners openly and consensually
Voyeurogamy: you can look but you can’t touch
Trinogamous: being in a committed three-person relationship.
Show me through your actions for words are cheap?
>I can't seem to remember why I have posted this. Hahaha!!! I should have added:
MONOGAMY goes against our basic biology
(of course, this isn't mine. got this from No Strings Attached.)
Monday, May 12, 2008
Sunday, May 11, 2008
sir mike.
Maybe if I weren't that THIN, noh? Then he wouldn't notice me. LOL! But this is so cliche! It happened long time ago and I had a good time during his lectures. Man, was I lucky? Learning and having fun at the same time. I passed the local board exam and I am nursing (what!?!) I mean I am already a nurse in a decent hospital (unfortunately, I can't and won't say that my pay is decent enough after all the errands and madness sick people demanded. T_T) That was so mean and cold-hearted of me. Blah!
Thursday, May 1, 2008
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